If you find yourself constantly accommodating someone else’s needs at the expense of your own, shrinking who you are to fit into their life, or becoming someone you don’t recognise in a relationship, you’re likely abandoning your boundaries, often without even realising it. The clearest sign isn’t always about what you’re saying no to; it’s about what you’ve stopped saying yes to. Your own needs. Your own life. Your own voice. Most people don’t wake up one day and consciously decide to...

If your car started making a strange noise, you would take it to a mechanic. If your computer stopped working, you would call someone who understands technology. If you had a legal issue, you would seek advice from a qualified professional. So why do so many people struggle alone when it comes to their mental and emotional well-being? For some reason, many of us believe we should have all the answers ourselves. We expect ourselves to navigate stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, grief,...

Imagine that there’s a project at hand, any task that comes to mind: studying for an exam, opening a business, strengthening a relationship, or even having children. There comes a series of expectations and hopes with any task in our lives regarding the outcome. The actual outcome of the task will be based on what we do, our expectations of what we should do (this is where self-expectation comes in), the circumstances we are in, and, of course, a little bit of luck. For now, we will focus on...