Expressing Needs

This explores how comfortable you are sharing what you need in a relationship. It reflects whether you tend to speak up, stay quiet, or try to balance both.

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It will take around 5–7 minutes to complete.

1. When it comes to expressing needs in a relationship, I:

Please select one:

Often keep them to myself

Tend to prioritise my partner’s needs over my own

Clearly state what I need and expect

Sometimes struggle but try to communicate them

2. I find it hard to:

Please select one:

Be alone and not get depressed

Feel deep emotion

Say no or assert myself

Relax, let go, and be spontaneous

3. My approach to personal goals is:

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Honestly I struggle with motivation most of the time

I prefer to work on them alone

I worry about others’ expectations of me

I’m driven/perfectionistic (but can struggle with procrastinate)

4. If my partner is upset, I tend to:

Please select one:

Give them space and time to cool down

Try to understand and emphasise with their feelings

Offer practical solutions to fix the problem

Do everything I can to make them feel better

5. When stressed, I tend to:

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Suppress my feelings and try to keep everyone happy

Seek comfort from my partner or withdraw if I don't feel safe

Become more active, try to stay busy or find solutions

Become quiet and retreat into my thoughts

6. When criticised, I tend to:

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Feel guilty and try to appease

Rationalise and get a bit argumentative

Analyze the situation internally or withdraw/shut down

Feel misunderstood or unheard

7. When I’m feeling down, I usually:

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Withdraw and reflect on my own

Isolate and cope in dysfunctional ways

Try to distract myself with activities or tasks

Focus on making others feel better to lift my own mood

8. My response to compliments is:

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Deflect the compliment and complement them back

Appreciate them but often doubt their sincerity

Accept them if merited and thank the person

Feel uncomfortable and downplay them

9. When it comes to emotional intimacy, I:

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I'm nervous about reaching out for emotional connection but want it deeply

Keep my emotions private and need space

I'm very tuned in to my partner's needs and feelings but neglect my own

Doing things together is easy, deep emotional conversations are harder.

10. My biggest fear in a relationship is:

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Being misunderstood or not appreciated

Being controlled or losing my independence

Being blamed or causing discomfort

Conflict and anger