Stop Swiping and Start Living
- Wise Psychic Counsellor
- Feb 2
- 4 min read
Reclaiming Your Life Beyond Dating Apps
In today's world, being single is often framed as a problem to fix—a waiting period until you find "the one." Society pushes us toward endless swiping, convincing us that fulfillment lies in a romantic partner. But what if the connection you truly need isn’t with another person, but with yourself?
Instead of chasing external validation, what if you flipped the script and embraced singlehood as a path to self-discovery? This isn’t about rejecting relationships—it’s about prioritising the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself.
Studies show that 63% of dating app users experience increased anxiety after using these platforms. Many feel burned out, unfulfilled, and lonelier than before. If you're feeling drained, it’s time to take a different approach—one that nurtures your inner connection and helps you build a life that feels rich and meaningful.
Here are five actionable ways to put yourself first and embrace singlehood as a powerful journey of self-discovery.
1. Start Your Day by Connecting to Yourself
Before checking your phone, before responding to emails, before diving into the chaos of the day—take time to reconnect with yourself.
Actionable Tip:
🌿 Dedicate 15-20 minutes every morning to a mindful practice that centers you. This could be:
✔ Stretching or yoga
✔ Meditation or breathwork
✔ Journaling your thoughts and emotions
✔ Taking a quiet walk outdoors
I personally reconnect with my body by dancing in my kitchen—no structure, just pure movement. What activity makes you feel fully present in your body? Whether it’s dancing, deep breathing, or simply stretching, find a way to ground yourself before the day begins.
2. Set Boundaries That Protect Your Time & Energy
One of the biggest traps of modern dating (and social media) is constant availability—texting, swiping, checking notifications. This drains your energy and keeps you locked in a cycle of seeking external validation.
Actionable Tip:
🕰 Set daily boundaries for how much time you spend on social media or dating apps. Try:
✔ Designating specific times for checking messages
✔ Taking social media detox days
✔ Replacing screen time with activities that bring joy—reading, painting, or simply resting
Time alone is fertile ground for growth. Instead of focusing on who’s texting you, focus on what you’re doing for yourself today. Protecting your time means prioritising what truly nourishes you.
3. Rediscover Joy Through Personal Hobbies
After my divorce, I found joy in gardening, walking, and cooking—not as distractions, but as ways to reconnect with my true self. Hobbies are not just activities; they are pathways back to who you are.
Actionable Tip:
🌸 Set aside time each week to do something just for you, without any pressure of productivity. This could be:
✔ Revisiting a childhood hobby
✔ Learning a new skill just for fun
✔ Indulging in something purely enjoyable—watching a sunset, baking, or listening to music
Think back to a time when you felt fully alive—what were you doing? Can you reintroduce that into your life today?
4. Reframe Loneliness as an Opportunity for Growth
We often associate being single with loneliness, but loneliness is not the enemy. Instead, it’s a signal—a sign that something within you needs attention. Instead of running from it, lean into it.
Actionable Tip:
📝 Next time you feel lonely, try this exercise:
✔ Pause. Before reaching for your phone or a distraction, sit with the feeling.
✔ Journal your emotions. Ask yourself: What is this loneliness really telling me?
✔ Identify the need. Are you craving connection, fulfillment, or validation?
Loneliness isn’t an identity; it’s just an experience. You can feel lonely without being lonely. Use these moments to check in with yourself, rather than seeking someone else to fill the gap.
5. Find a Community That Supports Growth
The journey of self-discovery doesn’t mean you have to go it alone. Finding a like-minded community can accelerate your growth and provide meaningful connection—but the key is choosing spaces that align with personal growth.
Being single isn’t a failure. It’s an opportunity—a time to reconnect with who you are, outside of relationships, and create a life that is fulfilling on its own.
By putting these small but powerful actions into practice—reclaiming your mornings, setting boundaries, nurturing personal joy—you begin building a life that is full and abundant.
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At Wise Psychic Counselling, we believe that self-discovery is a powerful journey. If you're ready to deepen your connection to yourself, join our supportive community, where we explore ways to live with intention, fulfillment, and authenticity.
📌 Are you ready to stop swiping and start living?
Final Reflection: Living Fully in the Present
Ask yourself:
💫 What activities make me feel most connected to myself?
💫 What boundaries can I set to protect my time and energy?
💫 How can I use moments of loneliness as opportunities for self-growth?
Your journey is yours alone, but you don’t have to walk it alone. Start prioritising YOU, and watch your life transform.
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