The Most Important Questions to Ask Yourself If You Want to Be More Authentic
- Wise Psychic Counsellor
- 3 days ago
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“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” — Brené Brown
Have you ever just wanted to relax, let go, and simply be yourself — without fear of judgement or rejection?
Many of us long for this ease, yet being authentic can feel anything but easy. For many, it’s because we learned early on that being fully ourselves didn’t feel safe. As children, we were often rewarded for doing things the “right” way — for behaving, performing, pleasing — not for expressing our true thoughts or feelings.
Over time, we abandoned parts of ourselves to stay accepted and loved, creating a gap between who we really are and who we think we’re supposed to be.
The Cost of Hiding Who You Are
When you spend years suppressing your true feelings, opinions, or natural gifts, the result can be anxiety, depression, self-criticism, and unhealthy coping patterns. From eating disorders to addictions and perfectionism, so much self-destructive behaviour is rooted in a deep disconnect from our authentic selves.
This pattern can be hard to break because, for many of us, our coping mechanisms once kept us safe. But they can also keep us stuck. True healing begins when we make peace with our story and invite every part of ourselves — even the parts we were once shamed for — back into the light.
Authenticity is a Practice
Living authentically isn’t about performing a new identity; it’s about softening old armour and reconnecting with what feels true. It’s about vulnerability — being honest with yourself about what you feel, need, value, and dream about, even if it challenges other people’s expectations.
It can be uncomfortable. Some people may not accept your true self. Some relationships may shift. But what you gain — a sense of inner peace, genuine connection, and freedom — is worth it.
Questions to Help You Find Your Authentic Self
To live more authentically, it helps to reflect gently and honestly. Here are some guiding questions to sit with:
To understand what shaped your patterns:
What were you rewarded for as a child?
What did you get punished or shamed for?
How were you told to look, behave, or feel?
What messages did you receive about success, failure, and your worth?
To connect with your true essence:
Who am I when no one is watching?
What comes naturally and easily for me?
What did I love doing as a child?
What lights me up today, even if I hold myself back?
To check in with how you relate to yourself:
Do I say what I think I should, or do I say how I truly feel?
Am I doing what I enjoy, or what I think I’m supposed to?
Do I judge myself for my feelings, or do I make space for them?
These questions aren’t about blame — they’re about curiosity and gentle truth-telling. They can help you notice where you still wear old masks and where you’re ready to live more honestly.
The Gift of Coming Home to Yourself
As you reclaim your authenticity, you may discover hidden parts of yourself: the healer, the artist, the dancer, the poet, the playful spirit you tucked away for safety. By embracing these parts with kindness and understanding, you create the conditions to thrive — to be loved for who you are, not who you’ve been pretending to be.
Source: Adapted from personal stories and reflections on authenticity and healing.
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